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Good morning beaugorgeous! Happy Monday! Today on my way to work I decided to stop and smell the flowers or more like photograph them :) and I realized that I haven't done something like this for a longggggg time. I felt that I have been too occupied with getting things done in my to do list that I forgot to slow down. So I took a deep breath and take in the simple gift of being here and allowed myself to sit for a while and let time go by. Then I think of the struggles I had to go through fears, doubts, uncertainty... It wasn't always happy... Then I remember I didn't have coffee... no wonder the melancholy LOL!...and I am so late. ahahhaah!

Be right back and oh enjoy the flowers....







Have a wonderful Monday and in the words of Thoreau... 
"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.” ...forget that its Monday! :)



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Hey beaugorgeous! Happy Sunday! I am having a low key Sunday at home which basically translates to doing a ton of reading. And because I am bored I decided  to share my current Weekend read which is  Deborah Harkness' All Souls Trilogy  A Discovery of Witches, Shadow of Night and The Book of Life.

I got the complete set from my latest scavenging at the flea market and got it at a very, very, surprisingly affordable price. And yes, I salvage and adopt abandon, old, unwanted, used books because they deserve a home besides that I can't always afford the new ones :)


Anyways, the All Souls Trilogy tells about Diana and Matthew who is a witch and a vampire and their fight against the congregation which is against their relationship because of an old rule that creatures such as witches, vampires and daemons should not marry other creatures except their own. Yes, an adult version of the Twilight Saga. The story is about love, acceptance, diversity and unity that although we come from different backgrounds, races and beliefs we can all come together for a common good. (okay okay I am not going to do a book review here). It is however a very interesting read.  A vampire and a witch falling in love, meeting the inlaws oneside a vampire who can feast on you anytime and the other are witches who can make you disapear, step children, daemon friends, lurking ghost of a great grandma, a haunted house, angry wizards and an angry vampire brother inlaw. And and and... conspiracy. Would you think that Lazarus that man who rose from the dead can be a vampire? I mean what creature can come back from being dead? Vampires! (high pitch witchy voice) okay I am joking... its just that this book is so mind boggling you start thinking things.........

Also, Deborah Harkness in this book introduces Darwin's theory of evolution in a whole different perspective. Get this... the theory is that originally there are four kinds of dominant creatures in this world; humans, witches, vampires and daemons. However we kind of evolve to fit to our society so everyone adapted and therefore live as humans...to live ordinary lives... but somehow these creatures stands out in a way... oh well... ;) I am not going into this... LOL!

Well actually one of the other things that really attracted me to it is because it is a historical-fantasy novel which I love of all the genres. Think time travel and  going places. There is no limit to the imagination. Yes, travelling at no cost at all. Ain't that frugal? LOL!

Well, I have no intentions of writing a book review on this...yet! I might ;) but not just today. I feel like writing too much details will suck the life out of me. LOL!


So finally moving on, on to other things, we finally decided to have our tree this year and  there's a lone christmas ball on it at least. And I don't see such a rush to get it done any time soon. Well, maybe I can declare the first day of December an official christmas tree day and force husband to take part...well actually he is not a christmas tree guy either. And sometimes I think that he is the grinch in disguise... but I don't really care... he's my grinch...ooh would that make me mrs. grinch? LOL! and please excuse me for writing like a twelve year old :) the lady has to chill here ;)

Well there's goes my weekend in words :) Hope you have a wonderful one as well. And remember, grab life and beat it with humor. Be creative, explore, create and edit your own endings. And most of all have fun!


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Hey beaugorgeous! I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend. Mine is a little uneventful. Well besides doing the usual house chores and trying to be productive I am a little bit undecided whether to put up a... our christmas tree this year. I know, how can I even be so undecided about it. right? what a grinch. LOL! its just that a lot of things are going on this year and I have been pretty caught up with things I needed to do and putting up a tree seemed like another chore (sigh)


Anyways, while a sit here trying to make up my mind on a relevance of a tree... a christmas tree as that of which I used to be fond of, I would like to share a wonderful treat from my garden they don't usually bloom so when something like this happen it  makes me very happy and thankful for the beautiful things in life. And yes, it is its novelty that makes it all the more special.


Well, I could sit here all day basking at the beauty of this simple thing and yet continue to wonder... should I  put up the tree already... decisions, decisions... and yet you wonder how could I even think like this. Okay so this is probably the busiest year for me since I get back to mainstream and yes it can be overwhelming. And since that I am pretty sure that husband and I are going to be caught up in our own little work capsule bubble I thought that christmas can be put aside this year... and excuses inserted, I don't have time for christmas shopping, and the christmas dinner... I feel like I am haunted by the spirit of the burnt food of my christmas past and Kenny G bursting his windpipes playing christmas carols in the barckground doesn't seemed to be working either... oh my what has chemo done to my brain. This is so not me! I love chrismtas trees! I worship the christmas balls, the fake tree, pine cones and the lights the lights! LOL!


I need to make that decision so I guess 'tis time for a town hall meeting... rally the husband and the dog and hope for a fair consensus. LOL! Well, hope you guys are having a fantastic weekend and always remember hope is a waking dream. (ooohhhh I am so back)  :)


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Hey beaugorgeous people! I know I have been MIA the past few months and yes throwback blogs doesn't count as a comeback either. LOL! but excuses granted, I have been so busy with beating deadlines, making a living and getting responsibilities done. Yeah, its called being an adult (duh) and it can get very exhausting. Anyways today I decided to do the childfree tag. And yes there is such a thing as a childfree tag and I am very excited to do it. So here goes:


1. Do you dislike children?

I don't dislike children. In fact I have spent most of my career as a teacher being with them and like most teachers, I love them as if they are my children. But I also think that after  spending so much of my energy, I would love to end my day to a quiet time at home, cuddle with my puppy and enjoy a life of boredom. LOL!

2. Why did you opt out from parenthood?

Technically, my oncologist had to harvest my  reproductive organs to save my life from cancer. But long before I was diagnosed with cancer, husband and I kind of decided to halt parenthood for a while to focus on our career. The truth is, even when we were still dating, we never talked about having children. It was kind of whatever comes will come kind of  thing. So I guess we kind of think that its okay not to have children but it was then such a taboo that we didn't openly talked about it. And then  we hit ambivalence that time we turned thirty (it's the pressure I guess) and we tried but I got a cancer diagnosis instead of a baby. So, we let things be (had to cry it out at grief therapy) but accepted the fact that we are not meant to be parents.

3. Did you think your childhood affects your decision to be childless?

Nope, we had a wonderful childhood. It's was a choice.

4. Do you think that people are aware that parenting is a choice?

Well, we live in a society where the acceptable is best practice by everyone. And for some couples being parents is the ultimate achievement and it is understandable. We kind of feel that we owe it to society to reproduce and it seems that we are made to think that marriage can only last when there are children. Well, there are different sides of it. But people should be given that awareness that there is no pressure when it comes to having children. The same goes with couples or people who want to raise children regardless if they are married or not (treading lightly here). I am just saying that being parents is all about being able to love, provide a better life, care and be responsible of another person. And for one to know if they're ready or not should be a personal choice... And if one decides to have or not to have children, it should not be a subject of attack or judgement. I guess the word here is respect that choice.

5. Describe parenthood in one word.

                                 CHOICE

6. Do you think you be a good parent?

Yes, I do! Well, I'd like to think that I am the best furmom in the whole world. And a teacher as a day job? should I even be asked? :)

7. What is the most ridiculous BINGO you received?

Okay, so I had to google this for I thought Bingo is a game or the farmer's dog B.I.N.G.O :)

"A bingo. It's when a childfree person says they're not having children, and someone tells them they'll change their mind or that it's different when they're theirs..."

Before I got cancer and became infertile, people used to tell me that it would  too late once we decide to have children and that we should try getting pregnant first. Guess what, we are indeed too late and I didn't regret any of my choice. So now they are saying I am sour-graping. Well, I realized that this is a battle I cannot win. So to thee I raise my white flag... you can say whatever you want.

8. Didn't you want to experience being pregnant?

I have to say that pregnant ladies are the most beautiful and adorable people in the world. But nope, that was something I didn't look forward to. I guess I already knew that it isn't my thing.

9. Do you have pets? Do you think you transfer your love and nurturing to your pets?

Does waking up in the middle of the night to let them potty in the toilet counts? ...and all the things I do and will do for my furkids (present and future)... yup, hail mother of dogs I am. :) the transfer is mutual. LOL!

10. What is the Best Part of Being Childfree?

(without sounding very selfish?) time and freedom to do whatever you want to do.

So there's my first 10 Childfree Tag Questions. And please note that my situation is different to anyone and I don't assume to speak for the majority who are in the same situation as mine. We all have different reasons for our choices. And yes, from time to time I would wonder how it would be like to have children of my own and it would forever remain  something I would never know and it's okay.

I may have given up bearing children, "but I can still bear love and hope for those who are already born" D.H. Lawrence


HAPPY WEEKEND EVERYONE!



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I've been dying to blog these past few days. But it seems like I have nothing to say. And I don't know if this is still the effect of chemo brain or I was just too caught up with "adulting" and doing things which needs to be prioritize :) and hands up those who think that being childfree gives us all the time we need that we end up bored most of the time? Nope, we get caught up with so many things like everyone does and usually it gets pretty exciting all the time... and yes, it doesn't require children. ;)

Well, anyways, since my brain seemed to be so not blogging today I thought I'll do a little throw back and dig my thoughts way back last year when I just got back from my cancer treatment... enjoy ;)

Hey wonderful people! another week had gone by and I hope you have carried along with you all the wonderful things (and maybe not so wonderful) the past week had brought you. All those tears, frustrations, joy and wonderful memories t hat will keep us going. Things that reminds us that we are still alive. And as usual we repeat another week cycle of fun, thrill, adventure and challenges. Hep! hep! if you are still on your toes thriving through.

These past few days, I've seen so may women came out from behind a body shaming crowd. Media suddenly became a friendly turf and everyone seems to be talking about self love, self acceptance and pride. Celebrities and so many ad campaigns in a most accepting and uplifting manner became the voice of the majority. The majority of us, real and "ordinary" people who pace life with all our flab, jiggles, stretch marks, burnt armpits and scars and whatever makes us real.

So last week, I was at a school event and for the first time in months, I posted a whole front body shot without hiding behind someone's back, behind a slim filtered photo, a huge bag or a hand that attempts to hide a bulge in the middle. The wind of freedom was so strong I had to close my eyes and breathe it all in ;) yes it felt good like that. In an article I recently read, the author said to recognize the imperfections you hate about your body and embrace it. Well, once in my life, I did embrace and told myself it is okay to be just me because for all we know...real life can't be Photoshop. And that is very okay ;)

Anyways, as you can tell by now, I am pretty much adjusting and loving being back to mainstream. Although I still can't fully function as an always rushed-task driven-stress sucker lunatic (oh bhoy it does sounds dangerous LOL!) I have occasionally "gate crashed" some events and manage to briefly show myself and help out in the best possible way I can. Thank you guys for being one of the reason why life must indeed go on.


On more health update. I am basically flying solo for now. Which means no trips to the hospital until we get the important details we requested from the other hospital I was treated. And no medicine of whatsoever to "prevent cancer" from coming back. So for now, I rely on my body's capacity to endure and a mental prowess to keep reminding myself that I will be fine. Well, of course comes my routine "hit session" in the tennis court. Which to husband/Ryan's joy for having an instant "sparring" buddy. Also, I have manage to maintain a clean and balance diet. Lots of fruits and vegetables and at this time... lots and lots of eggs. I guess, at this point I just feel the need to listen to my body and unfortunately the need for protein right now is so great I need eggs... dozens and dozens of them (not really) Well, I can only say that balance is always the key to everything. But take note though... I have eternally exclude all animal meat in my quest to stay alive ;) so there... (sigh)

P.S. This week, I honestly admit and rationalized my "off the wagon" rendezvous with a cup of gelato. Yes, I am most of us too. I, in my weakest moment, doubtfully and with shaking hands reach out for a taste of eternal heaven... a taste of chocolate mint gelato... and I have to be honest, at that moment of bliss... It felt like it was all worth it. I know I still have to struggle at some point like my obsession with sweet, creamy and something cold. Well I guess each and every one of us from time to time needs to dodge an Achilles heel eyh? ;) and oh, this week is the Thai New Year. Happy Songkran Thailand! But Ryan and I decided to stay in and avoid the great crowd. Speaking of real kill joy ;) well, we instead decided to snuggle in get high on caffeine  and indulge in a good book or two.




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My Ryan and I, although we are always together at school and basically anywhere we go, we see to it that we spend time together (not doing work). Family time is very important to us specially spending time, undivided time with our little dog Kodi. So, weekends are always spent with just the three of us. Whether it is going out to a low key brunch our just spending time at home reading and cooking our favorite food and goodies and of course our little Kodi would be so happy to follow us around ;) 


Most weekends we usually treat ourselves to a local restaurant and of course the little one tags along and he was very excited specially when friends come by and gave him a "little" attention. He loves it when everyone is over him. He would happily wag his tail and like any other children...er dog... going home is not the happiest part.


Cheap but very delicious Thai restaurants are our favorite go to because we call ourselves the frugal super friends ;)


Most of the time our weekends  are spent looking for new places to dine (yup we love food a lot) and hunting for non-too-commercialized coffee shops Ryan would call the starbucks killers. 


And yes, we always appreciates a furkid friendly place where we can hang out as a family. And so far we haven't been denied to any place because of our little one. Well anyways, I do believe that families can be anything and there is no telling to how much it can be extended... I am thinking felines?iguanas? a camel? an owl? or just us... me, him and a little dog.


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My Ryan and I have always been home buddies ;) we hate going out and both of us believe that books are the cheapest way to travel besides the fact that we both also believe that thrift deals and clearance sales are mana from heaven LOL! obviously our weekend leisure involves things we can find and we can do within the neighborhood. So Saturdays and Sundays are  best spent at the tennis court and the backyard. Yes, yes and yes... we love to enjoy and have a lot of fun yet spend less. We are like the frugal superfriends ;)

And like any other weekends we trek around the house and would often find DIY surprises sitting in the garage,  must be the builders who fix the house ;) and I know how? just look at the screws, if there's any other use for it LOL!looks like a good DIY idea eyh? and yup I will definitely replicate minus the screw perhaps... the fact that drills are specially ban for me ahahah. 


and of course the little one needs some  attention too... as if he doesn't get so much of it already ;)


And also weekends is when I make food from scratch. So here we have some left over pasta sauce that I used for some recipe. I got little bit left and I wanted to consume it before it spoils so I thought I'll make brunch out of it.


I made some pasta. Boiled it like we commonly do... (it's not rocket science)


Then sauteed some garlic and onions into the pan and add the left over pasta sauce.


When the pasta is already cooked, add it into the pan and put the fire into low heat. I don't usually rinse the pasta with cold water anymore. I just make sure I don't over cook it so it won't become soggy. Mix into the sauce in low heat until the sauce is absorbed.


Plate it with  some sunflower sprouts or other greens and a piece of muffin and voila! brunch from scratch ready to serve.


And since we were only eating for two, we go some left overs. So I just stored it in the jars and we have food for a couple of days ;)


HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEK EVERYONE and YES weekend is just around the corner and me sitting here with my thinking hat planning for it already ;)




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...she sat wandering away thinking about how it would feel like to be a mother. To cradle someone out of her own self and watch it grow into a person she is a part of... to hear someone calling  her mom... the happy they said... the bliss and fulfillment they said... and then she wonders if it is a curse to never ever experience it... or is it not?

I have waited for a long time to finally talk about the issue of not being able to have children of my own.  Actually there is no way of telling how it really feels.You can neither be sad or happy because how can someone miss something that hasn't been there in the first place?

However, I find it interesting though how people, not all I'd rather say, automatically think that one is unhappy, unfulfilled, and lonely because there are no children in the marriage. And to say that you are happy in spite of makes it seems like you are selfish, cold and heartless. And no, I am not going to rationalized about it because having children I believe is still one of the happiest thing one has to experience. But it doesn't make me sad either.


Well sometimes I find it difficult to deal with conversations about having children or not having children and I feel awkward as much as people do when talking about it  because the stigma is very apparent. It seemed like as a woman one has to bear motherhood to feel relevant. But what if I already knew that I'm not cut out for it? As a teacher, I would spent almost my entire day/life being with my students and I love my job, but I also love the fact that I can go home and spend a peaceful afternoon taking care of myself and getting a looooot of sleep.


I believe there is  a story behind every childless marriage. And yes, for some of us, who've intentionally or for other reasons cross this path, I'd say that indeed this is a road less traveled.  And to say that we are happy in spite of not having children is not at all sacrilegious because I know that there are more than one hundred and one ways to be a parent. I may never become a mom, but I know I am going to be the coolest auntie to my nephews, nieces and godchildren. I will love and spoiled them to bits.  And when they get all cranky I can... well give them back to their parents. LOL! And isn't that very convenient :) I can also focus my time and spend the whole day teaching and then saunter through the evening, give myself a long stretch, kick my shoes off and embrace the world of silence and peace and call it a wonderful day :)

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